As the Western media waits with bated breath for the Sex and The City, the Film, I run look at the promos in vain for an Indian face. Can I ever see an Indian version of Carrie Bradshaw, Samantha Fox, Charlotte York and Miranda Hobbes? Or perhaps the question should be can any set of Indian women whether in reel or real life display such camaraderie and candidness in relationships, especially with their fellow women?  The closest Indian cinema came to Sex and the City was Dil Chahta Hai, but that was all about three men, rather boys.
One may argue that such open and frank relationships is not possible between women, especially in a society, which is prejudiced against unmarried women above 30. (I don't want to use the word 'spinster'). But what about the women themselves? Is it so tough for educated, well-placed women to just be women and talk freely to each other without being judgemental about each other. 

Judgemental- Yes, that's the problem with Indian women, not just with the society as a whole.  For example I can already imagine a real life Indian version of Carrie Bradshaw, termed as 'lost' and 'indecisive', the Indian Samantha Fox as 'loose', Charlotte York as 'Behenji' and Miranda Hobbes as 'aggressive'.
Perhaps some of these labels exist in the Western world itself. But they seem to dilute and blur in the western world where ideas of individuality and 'my space' rule. 

In the Asian or Indian context, where women are living upto stereotypes and doing very less to break them for their friends and families the above mentioned labels apply hard and strong.

Just how many beautiful, urban, educated, single, sexually mature Indian women will discuss orgasms and sex  with frankness, without lacing it with guilt? Just how many of them can decide about a man after sleeping with him, considering that sex is an important aspect of any man woman relationship or enjoy a relationship with a men, intellectually, emotionally, or sexually without thinking of marriage. In short, how many Indian women have the courage to be themselves and let go? Perhaps there are women out there, in Mumbai and Delhi, who let themselves go but can she ever trust the woman next to her and talk openly about what she is experiencing, even if it is plain confusion like Carrie Bradshaw, without being judged?  The handful of them who do that are told that they don't 'fit in' to the Indian society and perhaps they should consider living abroad.
Is that the answer that you give to someone who just wants to talk???
 
Somehow, education and career seem to have made Indian women much more 'stiff', for lack of a better word. Or perhaps it is just their way of holding up to a society which considers unmarried and single women as 'dangerous' and 'loose'. Even if she is not 'career minded' and is more of a Charlotte than a Miranda, who believes in marriage and dreams of babies, she will be immediately admonished by her 'modern' friends or may be a pushy family who think that having a career is of the utmost importance for the 'modern woman'. My question is why can't a woman just be an just choose for herself or to put it more simply why can't an Indian woman live and let live? Why can't they just remember that before being women, they are humans and individuals (not Goddesses), and have the the right to choose their life, career, or man and always remember that women who live in glass houses should not throw stones at other women.